Dating never gets easier.
College students need to know this.
As I said to one student a few weeks ago, at some point you just kind of realize your “problem areas” when it comes to dating. Me? I’m afraid of rejection, so my typical pattern is to develop a crush and then never do anything about it. Or if I do, I’m so difficult to read that I come across as detached or as if I’m placing said guy in the “friendzone.” I have a hard time using my words. In fact, it recently took me three hours to type up a message that literally said, “I think you’re rad. We should hang out more.”
That’s right– cool-as-a-cucumber, hilarious, one-of-the-guys ‘Dith can’t function around attractive guys. Actually, wait. I take that back. I can function around them until I realize I like-like them. Then I become a shy, bumbling idiot, over-analyzing everything and sweating while doing so. It’s pathetic, really.
But at some point, you put on your “big kid” pants, tip your hat to your insecurities, and do your best to cope with them. As I’ve said to another friend, the worst that can happen is you do get rejected– then you pat yourself on the back for trying, learn a lesson or two, maybe mope around embarrassed for awhile, and then you get back out there and hit a homerun. Or something along those lines.
The bottom line is I’m going to be a student affairs professional, but I’m a real live human, too. I’m not scary. I’m not invincible. I don’t have magic powers (that I know of).
I’m just a girl… er, young lady… trying to figure out her way in life, too.